Staying Connected to Yourself (When Holiday Chaos Hits)
Are you feeling the pressure of the holiday season creeping? If so, you’re not alone.
Nine out of ten women struggle with this season.
They struggle because family dynamics have a unique way of puling us back into old, outdated identities no matter how hard we try to NOT be that way.
In this conversation, Maggie and I explore deep questions about how we stay connected to ourselves through the holidays—through challenges, through things that are shifting and unknown.
I see this all the time in the work that I do: we try to do everything “right,” yet no matter what we do, things just don’t work out the way we think they should.
Most of the women I work with are the caretakers in the family—the ones setting the table, buying the food, making all the plans. Overwhelm is so common. When things don’t go exactly as planned, it’s easy to slide into overdrive, panic, anxiety, or even depression.
During our talk, I found myself sipping tea and laughing about the technical gremlins before we went live—and realizing it all links perfectly to this conversation: how do we let go a little, relax into our own experience, and meet ourselves right where we are?
Because things don’t work out perfectly; they work out as they should. There’s a deeper intentionality often playing out. If YOU can become centered enough to be the calmest voice in the room, your intentionality will shine through.
So the question isn’t how do I get this “right”; the question is who will I choose to become in the midst of it all? Because when you intentionally focus on your emergence, your life transforms.
Here’s what I’d love for you to pay attention to this season:
The body never lies. A tight chest, a quickening breath, heat under the skin—these are not problems. They are portals. When we allow ourselves to notice and be curious, even for one breath, we uncover information we need.
Permission is powerful. Permission to feel, to pause, to set down perfection and simply be. So many of us wait for someone else to give it—and what I see, time after time, is how things change the moment we claim it for ourselves.
This is bigger than any one moment. The choices we make about our own boundaries and presence ripple through our families, our communities, and—yes—future generations. When we choose to show up differently, we invite those around us to do the same.
It’s not just practical, it’s quantum. The science backs it up: as we change even the smallest patterns, our lives shift in measurable ways. There’s intelligence in your body and wisdom in what is moving through your body. Learning to trust it is a choice.
There’s wisdom in the mess, and there is power in meeting yourself with kindness.
My conversation with Maggie Pounds
In this live exploration, Maggie and I are having a conversation about something that’s on a lot of our minds right now: how do we stay connected to ourselves through the holiday season, through challenges, through things that are shifting and unknown.
In this exploration you’ll find:
Why holidays activate overwhelm and old patterns
How triggers are invitation, not problems
How to apply the four part process “Name it, claim it, choose it, change it”
Why letting go is THE hardest energy to engage
What it means to be self-centered vs. centered in Self
Why communities of women supporting women is essential for women’s well-being
Your turn:
How might your life change if, just for today, you believed your triggers were invitations for you to evolve, not problems to fix?
Curious about your own patterns? Take this short quiz to discover your strategies.
Choose the support that feels right for you:
Join Maggie’s weekly women’s circles for space to exhale and connect in community.
Come to my upcoming workshop, Staying Centered in the Holiday Season, for hands-on support in real time (Nov 27).
Dive into our deep-dive coaching community—workshop included free.
If this resonated, you might also like..
