You want intimacy. But when the moment comes, you vanish.
Who I Become When I’m With You
When the cost of intimacy is your voice, the connection is rooted in illusion.
This live, 2-hour workshop helps you recognize — in real time — whether the voice guiding you is your truth or cultural conditioning, internalized “shoulds,” and protective beliefs, so you can hear yourself before you act, freeze, or disappear.
February 26th | 11 AM - 1 PM EST | live | over zoom | $47 minimum, Pay what feels aligned.
The struggle to stay present
This is a workshop for women who notice themselves disappear or become someone else in intimate relationships, but they don't want to.
So many women struggle being present in the presence of a loved one. Not just their partner—also their children, their parents, their siblings. They catch themselves mid-thought: “If I dare say this out loud, I will be hurt.” So they don’t say what is there to be said. They hold back. They don’t reveal the truth.
But the more they hold back, the more they disappear. They shrink. Become smaller. Resentful. They disconnect from their body and spend all their time in their mind, trying to figure out the next thing to say so that they are heard.
Here’s the problem: You cannot manage how you are perceived by another; you can only control how authentically you show up in the relationship.
This isn’t a cliché, and it isn’t easy. It is what’s necessary if we want intimate relationships with our loved ones.
By the end of two hours, you’ll walk away with:
Language for what’s happening inside you
so that you can respond from clarity instead of confusion.Recognition of when protection takes over
because you notice it in your body, not just in hindsight.More choice in charged moments
so automatic reactions stop running the relationship.Greater steadiness in connection
because you’re no longer abandoning yourself to maintain closeness.
This workshop isn’t about learning better strategies — it’s about noticing what actually happens in the moments that matter.
During the workshop, you’ll begin to notice…
The small moments where you check out and leave yourself
So you can catch quiet self-denials before they harden into resentment, numbness, or drastic decisions.The difference between truth and protection — in real time
So “I’m fine” and “it’s not a big deal” stop running your relationships without your awareness.Your body as a source of honest information
So you’re no longer relying only on mental narratives that rehearse the same familiar stories.How performance replaces presence in intimate moments
So you have more choice about when you hide, manage, or disappear around people you care about.What it feels like to stay with yourself under pressure
So intimacy no longer requires you to vanish — and honesty feels possible rather than threatening.
The Signals Dancing model offers a framework for noticing how you hear yourself — and for distinguishing the voice of truth from external expectations, internalized beliefs, and protective “shoulds” as they arise in the moment.
Together we’ll explore the difference between performance (how I’m being perceived) and authenticity (the impact I have when I reveal my truth).
Together, we’ll explore:
What are the signals we must pay attention to?
How does the body respond in the presence of performance? How does it respond in the presence of authenticity?
How does your breath shift?
Who do I give myself permission to become when I pay attention?
The process is simple, but not easy: Pay attention.
And learn what to pay attention to.
And when you do, your internal reality begins to shift — not because you changed the situation, but because you’re calibrating to something more honest than expectation.
What’s included…
A live 2-hour session with guided exploration + Q&A
The recording replay to revisit or move at your own pace
A Signals Dancing™ primer — Louise’s explanation for those new to the model
A Reflection Checklist to support you in noticing the shift from protection to presence, and returning to yourself
You’ll receive the Zoom link and all materials via email immediately after registration.
This is for you if …
You hold back what's true to keep the peace
You lose yourself in close relationships and only notice it later
You want connection but find yourself checking out when it matters most
A note about Stela
This is a live, facilitated workshop designed to explore sensitive relational patterns with clarity and care.
I’ve spent more than five years developing and leading this work inside WEL-Systems, including my own transition from addiction to agency, where learning to stay present wasn’t theoretical, it was essential.
The workshop is structured to move slowly enough for noticing, and clearly enough that nothing needs to be forced or exposed. You’re guided through specific inquiries, with clear boundaries around what’s explored and how.
The purpose is to give you direct access to yourself — so you leave with something you can use in your real relationships.
February 26th | 11 AM - 1 PM EST | live | over zoom | $47 +
Who I Become When I’m With You
This work asks something of you.
It asks you to show up. To take notice. To risk going first, before it feels easy.
But what it gives you… is intimacy. With yourself. Your loved ones. Your moment.
Because when you stop trying to be perceived the “right” way, you finally get to be who you are.
But the longer you disappear, the more life passes you by. Perhaps it’s time for you to create relationships where you don’t feel you have to vanish to feel safe.
The live format allows for real-time integration, which won’t be available once it goes to replay-only.
If that’s what you’re ready for...
FAQ’s
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You’ll get the full replay, so you won’t miss anything — except the Q&A session which is not recorded to respect the privacy of those who show up.
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Not unless you want to. The intention of the workshop is to help you learn through the teaching and your own noticing. Sharing is always optional.
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Me, too. So I get it.
In this space, we won’t ever imply you’re broken or be told how to fix yourself.
Instead, you’ll learn how to recognize the signals in your body that show whether you’re in survival, external conditioning, or truth.
That clarity is what most approaches miss.
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Yes, because noticing through this lens that I’ll teach you about is enough to begin.
This workshop won’t “fix everything” (that’s not the promise), but it will give you a clear map of your signals and the first step toward living differently.
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Because this is a live workshop with full replay access, refunds aren’t available once you register. However, if you’re dissatisfied for any reason, I’ll work with you to find a solution that feels right.
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I’d love to provide more answers! Simply email me and let’s talk!