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Do you find yourself in that in-between space where who you have been no longer can be, and who you’re becoming isn’t here yet?
It’s not a particularly comfortable place. In fact, it can be downright disorienting. Noticing yourself be in that space can feel tender, raw, and in many ways, unforgiving. You cannot deny what you know. You cannot pretend anymore. All you can do is surrender …

If that’s you, keep reading… because that space is full of potential.

The in-between is not empty

You may not know this, and you may not trust it, but it’s true: this vulnerable and uncertain is the space within which new potential can take root and manifest. Not because you’re trying hard to fix what’s broken, but because you are receptive to an alternative that cannot exist until you surrender.

That in-between phase is not a restful phase. It’s a letting go phase.

Your whole body cannot continue to hold on anymore, and you don’t even know what you’re not holding on to. You just know – it’s not working. What has been can no longer be. But you’re not bracing against that. You’re not fighting it. You’re not trying to avoid it. You’re simply mindful and aware that it no longer holds meaning for you to continue to hold on to it.

This is a felt state, not a strategy

I don’t have a concrete example for this, because it’s a felt state of being. It’s a surrender to the great unknown that leaves us open to receive without bracing. Without knowing. Without direction.

…yet, we are the compass.

I’m finding myself in that space. It’s very clear to me that what was cannot continue to be. I am categorically unwilling to go back, because it holds no meaning, no life, no value for me.

And being in the here and the now, both willing and able to see these threads interconnecting but not knowing how they interconnect, I am choosing to focus my attention simply in the now. Clear my calendar, clear my to-do list, and just write.

I know I’m creating something different than what was – in my business, with my son, in my life more generally. Something that is more in alignment and flow with who I am choosing to become. This isn’t easy, as I’ve chosen to pull the plug on most of what I thought I wanted … and what will be is not clear.

Seeing the form without the details

Keeping my eyes toward what I’m seeking to create, I can see the form, but I don’t see the details. I see the threads, I know they are interconnected, but the threads are pixelated.

It really is a beautiful, spacious place to be. And it takes immense trust to be in this place of not-knowing. Un-becoming. Un-wraveling.

Most of us are taught to fear being in this liminal space. We’re taught to hurry through it and figure it out. We’re taught that it’s better to fake-it-till-you-make it than to just linger in the unknown. We’re taught to just keep moving so we don’t lose momentum, running aimlessly like a chicken with its head cut off.

But, if you’re anything like me and my clients, you sense that moving with intention will propel you toward the life you want, not just away from what you don’t want. If you intentionally honour the moment of pause, you might actually catch up to yourself.

That is how you create the future that’s meaningful to you, rooted in the truth of the now while simultaneously keeping the vision of your future in your awareness.

So there’s something really special about this in-between phase. It allows you to let go and focus your attention on what matters to you. There’s so much energy that we put into holding on to what doesn’t work. What might we create if we chose to direct it toward what does work, instead?

But for that to happen, you have to know what it is.

And opening up that can of worms is not comfortable. It feels disturbing and disruptive because it is unfamiliar and uncertain. Yet it’s very intimate. And when you know how to stay with it, root it, in your body, you just trust it.

The 30 seconds of pause could transform your life.

When we choose to develop the habit of the 30-second pause BEFORE we take action, magic begins to flow through our realities!
Thirty seconds. That’s all it takes to stop…. drop your attention inside, to the base of your spine… and take three, long, slow, deep inhales and exhales…. and allow your body to settle. Once completed, only then do you turn your attention to: now, how do I CHOOSE to respond (or not); and for what intentional outcome.
Thirty seconds. That’s all it takes to stop and intentionally return to the ’now’… to the moment the I AM that you are can occupy your body… and then, CHOOSE the next moment of your expression.
Louise LeBrun

Learning to trust what I can’t yet name

For me, I have an undeniable, unwavering trust in the process. Because I know: this is where everything is possible. This is the part where I get to create what’s meaningful for me, once I discover it by staying in the process, open and suggestive to the discovery.

This is a state of power.

To know that the pieces of the puzzle of my life are being rearranged to map to exactly who I am choosing to become.

And given my line of work, I see this reflected back to me through my clients. More than one woman is in this state of internal surrender – giving up trying so hard to hold on to what isn’t working, inviting space to open up for what’s possible.

So, I am choosing to linger in this space of power. And I will shape my life from what’s meaningful to me, not the story of what was, or should be.

As I change, so do my creations. I don’t know what that will be, but all I can promise you is this: I’m changing.

Stay tuned because I don’t have a clue what 2026 is gonna bring, and I know for sure that back to the basics it is, for me. I choose to move forward from exactly where I am in the now, toward who I am choosing to become.

I hope you choose to join me in that intentional, honest journey of becoming …

Decloaking and Living Authentically explore how this in-between space you’re in holds real power — but only when you know how to stay oriented inside it, rather than shut it down or push past it. Decloaking is a live group coaching experience designed to help you learn how to direct that power intentionally. If you feel the quiet pull, you’re welcome to book a short conversation and see whether this space feels like the right support for you.

And if you don’t feel called to reach out, trust that too. This pause doesn’t require action to be meaningful…

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