Who I Become When I’m With You is a workshop dear to my heart.

And I mean that literally.

Here’s a little story of how this came to be...

A few weeks ago, I almost gave myself a heart attack. The culprit? Eggs.

You see, we are a vegan household. My husband and my son are fully vegan, minus the yearly teaspoon of honey my husband might consume with his lemon tea. We don’t bring animal products into the home, and we like it that way.

That is, until I changed my mind.

I happen to really like eggs. And I am able to convince myself that buying eggs ethically aligns with my values.

However, I had a reeeeally hard time telling my husband.

In my mind, he’d hate it (which is true). So I bought the eggs. And in the familiar fashion of fearing the consequences of telling the truth, I hid them from him.

But when I took them out to fry them, I noticed my heart hurt.

It felt like a heart attack. My heart constricted and my whole world wrapped up around my heart center. I couldn’t breathe, and I wondered if I should call the hospital.

I decided I wasn’t going to die for eggs.

So I called my husband, instead.

Despite the deep discomfort this caused me, I told him that I was unwilling to give myself a heart attack because of the eggs.

He didn’t like it. But he liked me having a heart attack even less. So reluctantly, he agreed to ‘out of sight, out of mind’.

Since then, I’ve felt no need to bring eggs into my house. However, this is a funny story that illustrates the lengths we will go to to protect ourselves from declaring the truth.

There’s a reason for that. Or rather, multiple, interconnected reasons that all flood the nervous system at once when activated.

And knowing what to do in those moments when we want to lie instead of tell the truth is essential to the quality of our relationship with another, and ourselves.

This is why I created this workshop.

Because, of course, none of this was ever about the eggs. Whatever you’re navigating in your life, I can promise you it is not about the surface thing you’re paying attention to, but something far deeper.

Like most of my clients, when I didn’t know how to live from the Signals Dancing™ model, I fought myself all the time when confronted with information that I would prefer wasn’t true.

But when I learned how to live from the information that is revealed to me from this process, I became much more mindful of what was going on inside of me in the moment chaos presents. And mindfulness is an essential first layer to becoming.

The alternative? Dissapearing from the truth. Which leaves us vulnerable to living in untruth. This isn’t bad, but it will not lead to the intimate, honest, caring and compassionate relationship you seek.

For that to manifest, you must be willing to live in integrity.

Let me show you how to live in integrity with yourself by considering the signals that are dancing in your body at any given moment.

In the Who I Become When I’m With You live workshop we unpack:

what a moment of truth feel like (i.e. I want to eat eggs in my house);
how the external environment influences us to behave (i.e. vegan household, vegan husband, rules about what’s right);
how the internal landscape convinces us how to choose (i.e. Will he still like me? Will he be mad at me?);
who we show up in the world based on all the above = who we think we are with another (i.e. do I tell the truth or do I hide).