The key to a good life: Confronting what’s real
The truth has a unique way of sneaking up on you. Or so it seems, when we’re not paying attention. So discomfort quickly follows to let you know there's something worthy of paying attention to.
Lately I have been feeling like my voice has not belonged to me. Not fully. I was trying to make my message understandable, maybe even - yuck - palpable. In doing so, I allowed external voices to flatline the expression of my voice. I allowed people I considered experts to direct the tone of my voice, the words I choose, and ultimately, my message.
Over the last few days I have come to realize how ludicrous that feels: how can someone who doesn't understand what I do speak to it? Not only can they not speak to it better than I can, but I don't know that they can speak to it at all.
Here's the truth: awakening to our deeper truths and reclaiming our wholeness through choice is inherently edgy. It presses up against our presuppositions and illusions and compels us to choose aligned. This is precisely what makes it so attractive to the women it is intended for. I don't tiptoe around the edges, I press up against them and show people how to navigate that edge with trust, intimacy, and RIG for themselves, their truth, and their loved ones.
This has always been the intention of the WEL-Systems body of work. It was never love and light, though seemingly ironically, as we engage this work, that's exactly where we end up. At least, I have – from addict to aligned was not an easy process, but it has been incredibly rewarding.
Something happens when you start to let external voices direct your choices. It’s often subtle, and insidious, but it adds up. Kind of like how a little filler or botox starts to feel really distorted and you can’t quite pinpoint how or when that happened – it just did.
All of a sudden, in an effort to soften my edges in a misguided belief that another will understand me better, I stopped understanding myself. In an effort to be understood, I noticed I couldn’t grasp my own writing. In an effort to gain traction, I watered down my powerful message of power.
From now on, you will receive educational and stream of consciousness writings that might feel different. What I am looking for is depth, not breadth. THAT is what makes the difference. The case is as it has always been, that deep, expansive and intimate explorations of the mind don't get the applause. You already know what does…
On one hand, my logical mind always knew this. We live in a world that values punchlines and ‘hooks’, not confronting what's real. We live in a world that values feeling good, not feeling deeply. We live in a world that rewards us with dopamine, not lasting transformation. But I am here looking for the women who are looking for me: the ones who want to look into the mirror of their own reality and take ownership of their life so they finally live the life they are here to live. To do THAT, we each must let go of the constructs that hold the other in place (yes, I’m talking about the cultural conditioning, aka untruths, that plagues our mind).
The explorations of mind through the intentional conversations that I offer present us with an opportunity to look at ourselves differently, more honestly, and more compassionately. In doing so, we discover, layer by layer, just how powerful we really are. And, we are never alone in that discovery…
How do you relate to yourself lately?
If your worldview allows you to become the full measure of who you are, then your worldview is worth replicating. But if it is not, then your worldview is limiting you from living a quality life. THAT is only available to you when you own your mind. But first, you must discover how your worldview keeps you in bondage.
Then, you must discover how to stay with the discomfort of the inevitable pain without losing yourself or hurting your loved ones..
This process is not fun. It demands unpacking all of the stuff you packed in the basement so that it no longer takes up space in your body, tethering you to a tired yet familiar reality.
Do you know how to make choices that propel towards an authentic future?
There is no performance in authenticity. I either am, or I am not, authentic.
If you approach your evolution and notice that it is performative, it will mask the truth no matter how hard you try. Inauthenticity does not allow you to evolve beyond the individual, cultural and familiar expectations of your own mind. That's why confronting them is the key to your liberation; if, of course, that's what you're looking for.
If you're curious about how I can help you notice all of these things that get in the way of you living a life that feels like it belongs to you, tell me a bit about yourself. Together, we'll take it from there.
Do you find yourself asking "why do I keep doing that — even when I know better?" This free diagnostic I created will show you why.
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