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ChoicePoints April 2004
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Spotlight On — Lynette Thayer and Telling Your StoryThere may be times when you find yourself curious about our Portals Passages experiences and wonder... 'what difference would it make in my life?' Perhaps it will help to give you some sense of the magnitude of how your life can change in just a short period of time. 'Telling Your Story' is a new business venture created by Lynette Thayer and born of her recently completed experience of the first three program intensives. In her own words, Lynette shares her results with us all! "In the past year my life has taken on new dimensions. Attending Influencing With Intention was really a desperate measure for me. I knew my life Had to change, and I knew being with Louise and Gwen was a safe place to share that desperation. I had a lot of self clearing to do and Louise and Gwen were right there "making it up as we go along" and layer by layer, it cleared! All I had to do was be willing to let go and trust myself and them. Of course my group was wonderful and as you know, each of you were there for a reason. Letting go is not always an easy task - but what did I have to loose? Allister, thanks for the deep breathing lesson. Towards the last few days I awoke to a vision of a scrapbook store with a difference: a place where different cultures would be able to come together and people would be able to tell their individual stories in the form of pictures, memorabilia, printed words, creative paper, but it will be theirs to tell. All the details were there -- hours of operation, ages able to utilize the store, and even a draft of the store layout. Up on flipchart paper went a picture of my vision in all its glory, home in my suit case, and up on my wall so I could see it every day. Now, as things go, there have been some turns and there was one valley, but everything happens for a reason. Today, I am busy preparing the final details for the April 19th launch of Telling Your Story My Influencing with Intention experience was monumental for me. It changed my life, ...no, it actually gave me my life. I was able to see how one thing led to another. I was able to put into perspective my childhood and the roles people played in it. I was able to identify life for me in "Women In The Neighborhood" and so importantly, what I have to have in order to live. All this in 9 days and within my own comfort zone. Many blessings and thanks to all!" Lynette Thayer 
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Coming Attractions!We are pleased to offer you the following seminars, workshops and programs. Each one designed to provide thought-provoking and life altering experiences for your on-going personal and professional development. WEL-Systems Experiences: April to June
Quick UpdatesCatalyst for Change - January 2005
Two New Books from The WEL-Systems Institute
WEL-Systems Change Agent Certification
Self Healing for Body, Mind and Spirit, May 29 & 30th
Coming to Halifax, Nova Scotia in June 2004
Did you know?That creativity can be "created" in predictable ways? Last month we were reminded of the power of the individual to create widespread, meaningful change in the world based on their creativity. It got me thinking about what it takes to be creative ...and whether creativity is an innate capacity or something we can develop. Interestingly, I've had Willis Harman's book "Higher Creativity" in my possession for some time and it is required reading for one of our program experiences. In a creative moment, I began to re-read certain sections and discovered (again) that way back in 1961 Carl Rogers had defined 5 conditions for constructive creativity. They are: Openness to Experience [tolerance for ambiguity and ability to receive conflicting information without forcing closure (I agree; I don't believe, etc.)]; Internal Locus of Evaluation [what's 'right' is based on our own evaluation not the praise or criticism of others]; Ability to Toy with Elements and Concepts [ability to play spontaneously with ideas, to juxtapose opposites and elements, to consider improbables]. These must occur where there is Psychological Safety [acceptance of worth, empathy] and Psychological Freedom [permission to be free and responsible, to be afraid, to be wrong, to feel confused]. Where I part company with my friend Carl is that he attributes the last two conditions as being necessary from the outside world. I believe and know from my own personal experience that first these must come from inside. Only when I can accept my worth and feel empathy for myself do I feel true safety in this world. Only when I can allow myself to claim my fear, to make mistakes and to feel confused do I feel free. I know how creative my life has become from creating my own safety and freedom. Where are you in "creating" your own creativity?
Thought WavesThe following is the third installment of a four-part article that chronicles one person's journey of discovery through the four program levels of Portals Passages - intensives for accelerated consciousness and generative change. Koreen Kimakowich is an experienced police officer, with a long career in working with others in often difficult and sometimes dangerous situations. A Certified WEL-Systems Catalyst and CODE Model Coach™, Koreen shares her evolution with you and invites you to consider the potential for your own. This month, Koreen shares her Influencing With Intention experience. The Passage Way Back to Me - Part IIIInfluencing With Intention (IWI) - The ability to stand aloneThis is where for me, with the discoveries from ITS and RIA still very fresh, I became a knower of the power of my mind-body. My intellect, while it has a role to play, became for me the 'speaker' of the messages that my body carries and the truth that it offers up for my acceleration of consciousness. My intellect speaks what my body has to say. Having come to that realization, I began to observe this notion of staying in the tough conversations while at the same time, following my own impulse and ultimately speaking my truth. Following my own impulse and ultimately speaking my truth, is seemingly a simple enough process. Yet, it's one thing to know you have that choice and quite another to actually choose it, out loud where others can now 'hear' your thoughts, once the body has shared with you internally your impulse and your truth. It is in the moment of living - moment to moment - and telling the truth of your experience… that is where standing alone unfolds. A very effortless, yet telling example of this as you read is to take a moment and ask yourself now, how many times in your daily exchanges with others have you found yourself saying, "yes", when you really meant, "no". In other words, with all kinds of bells and whistles going off in your body saying "whoa, you don't really want to do/be this", you engage in it anyway. This is "biography becoming biology" (Carolyn Myss, Anatomy of the Spirit). You may not associate that stabbing pain in your chest with the overt act of going against the body but I tell you, there is a correlation. It is speaking loud and clear… are you listening? So with IWI, the self that I had come back to, up to that point, engaged with the other selves, who were also coming into their "selves". At about day three or four, after having experienced the program conversation on Meta Programs and specifically the filters of Safe/Dangerous whereby all of our mind-body processing passes through this filter first, I experienced what I would call my very significant and telling Third Wave. In this moment where I believed my intellect to be focused, attentive and comprehending the words of the facilitator, in that moment - in one fell swoop! - I experienced an activity in my body that literally had me feel what I would describe as an overwhelming gust of wind lifting me off my feet. Though in this moment, imagine that occurring inside your body! That was me in that moment, and with that wave of energy speaking loudly and truthfully to me, I spoke out loud, with my voice and with language, releasing from my vocal chords were words that startled me. They were my truth in that moment and in all of my moments before and the words were this, "it was no longer safe for me to speak". That was all about the 'knowing' and certainty in my body and yet having learned that it was not safe to share that truth out loud. I had created, and intelligently so, a world outside of me that did not allow for error, or possibly being wrong. Silence again. The moments that followed were like no other I had ever been given permission to have. I know the second chakra to hold Family Systems, and it is where we find the element of water, water being the healing element. Interesting then isn't it that in my family system, I was to be seen and not heard… and the tears of me gushed from my eyes in those moments. We know voice/sound to be Choice, and we know without breath there is no space - no room - for sound. So in those moments where permission was not required, I fell helplessly and willingly into me… at the very core of powerlessness that I felt about all that I knew, I knew. In the program room, it became an ocean of tears that fell about my feet and around me. And sounds I had not heard myself make came from within me with a force that, without the breathing, I could not have made...creating space. When the processing was complete, I realized the space that was created allowed what I came to know as the 'wind' of me to move about my internal self, the healing element of water… and ultimately the ocean at my feet, the beautiful waves of water, which fell as tears were now mine to dive into and play, and again magic occurred. Another step back into me… and another beautiful element of me returned, and I moved even closer to being authentically my Self. It became clear that breathing, following the impulse and allowing myself to know the truth of my experience was essential to any and all evolution. In language, outside of the experience I describe above, it is breathing that created the space, following the impulse for me became about sensing the wave and letting it give the message, and then out loud or to my self, be true to the message. The body does not lie. Pay attention to and live out the message, as I did as it presented itself to me in my body, absent of my intellect that runs on many filters and external referencing. I can say, unequivocally, that had I allowed my intellect to have its way in the moments leading up to my Third Wave, I would not have experienced the freeing of my previously muted voice. Koreen Kimakowich Part III - Influencing With Intention - will appear in the April issue of ChoicePoints
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